Asking for help when you need it is not a sign of weakness. I have many conversations with women who need and want the services of a professional organizer, but unfortunately their husband is not on board. He may not see the investment of a professional organizer as an investment in improving your life, your time, your stress level, your environment and more.
Your husband may say “you should be able to do this on your own,” or he is too embarrassed to ask for or accept help. This is a common concern among spouses, and I will say that in my 5 years of organizing, it is usually the husband who argues or even belittles his wife for wanting outside help with organization.
I am not a marriage counselor, but I do know that improving your home organization and time management skills usually results in improved relationships. Here are some tips on talking to your spouse about why asking for organizational help is okay, and why they should agree to give it a try.
You Hire Experts for Other Needs
You hire a mechanic to fix your car, an accountant to do your taxes, a personal trainer to improve your fitness, a carpenter to fix your roof. A professional organizer is an expert to help repair disorganized systems, improve your overall environment, and transfer organizational skills to you, so you can maintain an organized home.
These are Skills You Need and Want to Learn
If you wanted to learn how to paint, cook, or play an instrument, you would take lessons. Some people never had lessons in organization or time management, so a professional organizer can teach you these skills that you may need to improve or want to learn. Home organizing sessions are personalized and customized lessons about you, your home, your time, your family, your life. A professional organizer doesn’t just move stuff around, he or she helps you to discover your goals, prioritize, create a plan of action, and make decisions on what to do with all the “stuff” that’s surrounding you.
You Need or Want Accountability
A professional organizer will help to hold you accountable, keep you motivated, and work with you either by your side or via phone or online to keep the process moving. After each organizing session, follow-up tasks and next steps are discussed. Your professional organizer will call you or check in with you at the start of each session to hold you accountable. Sometimes, having an accountability source is all you need to get the ball rolling and stay motivated.
You’ve Tried On Your Own, and it Hasn’t Worked
Ask yourself (or your husband), “How many times have I tried to get this place organized? How many organizing books or programs have I started or never finished? When will this get done if I don’t hire someone, schedule a time to do it, have an expert guide me in the process, provide me with storage product ideas, help drop off donations, and provide me with resources for selling or consigning items?”
You are Worth the Investment
The investment in a professional organizer can vary based on your needs. The total cost depends on many factors, including the size of the home, amount of items, number of people involved, and your decision making speed. As many of my clients can attest, the monetary cost is well worth every penny because you are investing in your well-being, in lowering stress, in saving time, and in improving your surroundings.
If You’re Happier, He’ll be Happier
With a better organized home, you will be happier, and things will run more smoothly throughout your home. You’ll have more time for enjoyable activities, and most likely this will result in a happier family, including a happier husband.
How much does your husband want to invest in and support your happiness? Call 919-561-0885 or email to schedule a free phone consultation. I can also set up a conference call with both you and your spouse, so we can really discuss your organizational needs and concerns in depth together.