Many of my clients are in tough positions where they have lost a loved one such as a parent, grandparent or spouse who has left a legacy of clutter. These people are grieving, and in addition to going through this very emotional time, they’ve been left with stuff. So much stuff that they are overwhelmed and sometimes angry at the person who left them with this legacy.
No matter how old you are, ask yourself, “Do I want to leave a legacy of clutter?” If something were to happen to you, how much stuff would you leave behind? How much of that is useful or sentimental, and how much of that will be a burden on your loved ones?
I’ve had clients renting storage units just to hold their late parents’ belongings, or filling up their garages, spare bedrooms or bonus rooms with boxes of things that belonged to mom or dad. These are things that the person feels nauseous looking at, and often feels angry at how much room it is taking up in their home. They are overwhelmed at the thought of opening each box and deciding “Is this a memory worth keeping, or is this junk?” Time and again, I’ve helped people sort through piles like this, and it is quite an emotional journey.
Ask yourself, “What kind of legacy do I want to leave my loved ones?” Picture your grieving family members sorting through piles of papers, clothing and other belongings that you should have parted with a long time ago. What will they think of your belongings, and what will they think about you as they plow through the clutter? I think most of us want to leave our family with as little stress as possible. Decluttering now, while you are able to make the decisions, is a better choice than passing on this enormous task to a loved one after you are gone.
If you feel you’re ready to take a good look at your belongings and make decisions on what kind of legacy you want to leave, you may want to contact a professional organizer for outside, non-judgmental expert assistance. A professional organizer can help you sort through your items, and help you determine the best way to discard each item whether that be selling, donating, recycling, tossing, or giving it to a family member now.
If you are in the Raleigh area and need assistance, please contact On Task Organizing to further discuss our decluttering services.